Search on Love Me Love My Wedding
TOOLS FOR PLANNING YOUR WEDDING
Bridesmaid Tide Bridesmaid Dresses
BLOGS WE LOVE
TRY THESE CATEGORIES
- Collaborative Opportunities
- Feature Films
- Friday Film
- Funny Friday
- Its Your Blog
- Love Me Love My Wedding Presents….
- Monday Muse
- Real Wedding Wednesday
- Saturday Celebrity Style
- Saturday Supplement
- Style Challenge Tuesday
- Themed Shoots
- Thursday Thoughts
Today we are taking a break from wedding planning, but not weddings of course. At this busy and sometimes stressful time we all need to kick back with a bit of escapism, and what better way than with a good old saucy rom com novel. I’ve had the pleasure of reviewing the latest book by Rebecca Chance, Bad Brides, but before I tell you all about the book, I asked Rebecca’s a few questions about her novel, love, marriage and wedding planning…..
Tell us a bit about your new book ‘Bad Brides’…
It’s a racy romp as two very different heroines – an actress and a pageant princess – get engaged and compete to be “Style” magazine’s Bride of the Year! But between engagement and marriage a lot of drama and naughtiness can derail the best-made plans, especially when there’s a sexy cougar, the Fracking Queen in the mix, plus a gorgeous Earl and a very muscly pig farmer!
Are you married yourself?
Yes, I am, and generally very happy, though of course no marriage is perfect!
What sort of bride were you?
I was an intensely relaxed one about all the details and planning. The worst part was finding a wedding dress – I was living in New York at the time and it’s a terrifyingly thin city! I’m a happy UK size 12 but if you can’t fit into a US size 4 (UK size 8) bias-cut silk charmeuse slip dress there, you’re made to feel like an absolute heifer. Thank God for a lovely gay salesman at Bloomingdales Downtown who eventually found me a lovely white beaded dress that fit me and made me feel wonderful on my wedding day.
So what exactly is a bad bride?
Haha! Have you watched the US TV programme “Bridezillas”? For a Bridezilla, it’s all about her, and everyone else – groom, bridesmaids, relatives, friends – become her servants for the duration of the engagement-to-wedding process. In America, brides routinely expect several wedding showers with different themes and presents, a destination hen weekend away, and then the costs of attending the wedding itself – hotel, dress, everything! It can cost the poor bridesmaids an absolute fortune and they can be expected to put their own lives on hold for a year or so – your holiday allowance becomes all about trips for the bride. To me, a ‘bad bride’ is someone who’s totally selfish about planning her wedding and doesn’t take anyone else’s wishes into account – including the groom’s! Milly in Bad Brides is a total Bridezilla. It’s all about her, all the time, and she drives the wedding planner and her maid of honour crazy.
Do you think there is a lot of pressure on brides to be to throw a “unique” “quirky” & “extravagant” wedding?
Yes! Such a nightmare! And such a waste of money and time if it’s not ‘you’. Besides, why should the poor bride have to shoulder the whole burden? I’m very lucky to have a metrosexual husband who really did get involved with lots of the planning for our ceremony, and actually downloaded a computer programme to work out how to do the seating plan for our wedding blessing, and that’s the way things should be nowadays – the responsibility shouldn’t just fall on the bride. When you get married, you’re creating a new life for the two of you as a couple, and I think ideally the bride and groom should work together to make the ceremony about them and their joint life together – forget words like unique and quirky, they make me shudder. It should be about the two of you and your own taste.
Do you have any favourite wedding anecdotes?
About mine or other people’s? Mine is that my hippy-dippy maid of honour let me walk down the aisle without handing me my bouquet, so I started out, realised I was missing it, but by that time I couldn’t turn back to grab it! You really feel like a complete idiot walking towards your groom with your hands flapping, let me tell you. There’s a reason you hold a bouquet! For other people’s, I collected a lot of crazy stories for Bad Brides research and one of my favourites was the American couple who sent ‘invites’ to people telling them that they couldn’t invite them to the actual wedding, because there wasn’t room (!), but that they were throwing themselves a ‘wedding shower’ for presents. They did it in verse and added a gift registry:
“Our wedding is coming but oh, what dismay.
The venue is small on our big day!
Though we can¹t squeeze you in during our special hour,
Would you please come to our wedding shower?”
A friend suggested people write back saying:
“Roses are red,
and violets are blue.
A set of Limoges crystal
Won’t go to you.”
What advice would you give to anyone planning their wedding?
Allow yourself plenty of time. Don’t rush it, and be wary of companies that put huge mark-ups on their costs just because it’s a wedding. We had a dinner after the ceremony at an Italian restaurant in Marylebone, London, where my mother is a regular, and they treated us wonderfully and didn’t charge an arm and a leg. Make sure you and your partner are in agreement about your budget and your concept – this is a really good way of seeing how well you work together! And don’t stint on the honeymoon, or delay it – make sure that you have at least a few days straight afterwards somewhere lovely, peaceful and relaxed, where you have to make very few choices. You have so many decisions to make in the run-up to the ceremony that you should really be able to relax and chill out afterwards with no stress at all, and settle into your life as a new couple.
Fab advice from Rebecca and I can tell you that her book is a must-read. Fast paced, razor sharp humour, bang on trend with references to gay marriage, full of filth, with a great story line full of strong female characters. People to love and hate, glamour, romance in all it’s forms for all ages and did I mention the filth? .
A perfect honeymoon read, which is why Rebecca is offering 3 of you the chance to win a signed copy of Bad Brides. All you have to do is like Rebecca’s Facebook page and Love Me Love My Wedding’s Facebook page and leave a comment just mentioning Bad Brides and Love Me Love My Wedding and the draw will take place on Monday.
Good luck everyone!
Today we have a guest post from Memory Lane Collages. I love this product and it is so versatile, breathing new life and purpose into images wallowing on your PC or phone and creating unique pieces of wall art to treasure forever. So its over to Memory Lane Collages for more information…..
Most of us now have fancy smart phones that take pretty good quality images. We snap away all day every day (my 12 year old can take hundreds of selfies a week as well as lots of unflattering pictures of me when I am caught unawares!) in addition, how many of you are opting for a “disc only package” from your wedding photographer? Do you have plans to create your own wedding album? How many will end up with just a couple printed off and the rest confined to a drawer, unloved and unseen?
Well I am here to breathe new life into those neglected images of loved ones, spectaculsr holidays, wild hen parties and precious wedding pictures.
This is our “Timeline Collage” and for this family takes us from their engagement,wedding and having children.
This is a collage from a 40th birthday weekend but could easily be created from a hen or stag party.
Today, Lisa Forde from The Card Gallery shares ideas on how to create different looks using your wedding stationery. Lisa’s been running The Card Gallery for the past 10 years so has picked up lots of hints and advice during that time…..
Create different looks using different wedding stationery
You’ve set the date, you know what time of year you’re getting married, now you need to set a theme for your big day. In this post I am going to explain how by using different stationery styles can do just that.
Brides-to-be love to revert back to using traditional styles of wedding stationery for their big day with cream rose designs being at the top of the popularity list. Save the date cards and wedding invitations are usually the first snippet guests will get of your big day so by using a traditional design like this one (shown below), suggests to your guests that it is going to be traditional style wedding.
To continue your traditional theme throughout your day you can use matching items like table numbers, place cards, menus, favours and a table plan to complete the traditional look.
So you have your dress, matching shoes and jewellery, makeup and hair is perfection, your dad has tears in his eyes as he sees his little girl in her finery for the first time. You go off to get married but have you thought about where you will store all the bits and pieces that all girls carry around with them? Lipstick, phone, tissues, at the very least.
A bridal handbag is usually an after thought or even non existent as bridesmaids are given the responsibility of carrying those essentials-but they don’t have storage facilities in these sleek gowns either. Well with the beauties below, a bridal handbag can be a statement piece in itself. It could be a dinky, subtle bag, or something with a wow factor, sleek and plain or frilly & over the top. There is a style out there to suit everyone.
Love this beautiful beaded bag from Catherine Mee. It’s like a little suitcase-very cute
What’s more exciting than going on vacation, especially if its your honeymoon, being finally able to relax, stop worrying about your work or wedding planning and simply enjoying a nice time with your partner or your family? Right, nothing. It is one of the best feelings ever as we’ve earned some time off after working hard.
What are you waiting for then? Choose your destination and start planning your holiday trip!